Did you hear? Mary Kate Olsen and Olivier Sarkozy tied the knot a few weeks ago. And now EVERYONE is talking about their “bowls of cigarettes”.
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Ok, I’m sorry, but WTF are “bowls of cigarettes”?
Let me start off by saying that this visual gives me the heebie jeebies a bit. I’m not a smoker and the smell of smoke typically turns my stomach. My problem, not yours, I get it. Either way, this fact is likely the reason I was not invited to this particular wedding. I honestly can’t think of any other reason. No hard feelings regardless. ;)
Secondly, I should also state that I loved “Full House” growing up. So much so that I cried like a baby when I found out the show was ending. WHAT ON EARTH would I do with my Tuesday nights?!? (Side thought: this makes me SO happy that I no longer have cable… sheesh)
So, why am I talking about Mary Kate’s “bowl of cigarettes”?
Well, because everyone else is.
From what I can Google about this wedding, there were no cell phones or cameras allowed in (more on that in a second) and I have no idea what these bowls of cigarettes actually functioned as. Centerpieces? Favors? Just bowls everywhere? I’m not sure.
But here’s what I do know.
Mary Kate and Olivier took care of their guests and shared something they love with them.
Granted, I have no idea if every single person on their guest list was a smoker. And I can imagine that anyone at that wedding who was NOT a smoker may have left feeling like they needed a four-hour shower. But this was a detail that showcased their personality and likes, and then, they shared it with their guests.
They are both heavy smokers and most of their guests were, too. And they accommodated their guests by supplying more cigarettes than I’d ever want to see in one room. In a weird sort of way, that was really nice and hospitable of them, wasn’t it?
Why do I care about this, Danielle?
Well, Mary Kate and Olivier gave us a little reminder that A) you don’t have to do things a certain way and B) it’s important to think of your guests and what they’d like and enjoy for your wedding.
Yes, your wedding is about you. But it’s your party that you’re hosting to celebrate with them. And as my good friend, Daniel Moyer, always says, “you are just 1-2% of your guest list” and it’s important to make decisions that include the other 98-99%.
Also, as I mentioned before, they BANNED any type of tech device from coming into their wedding space. Obviously, this was for press reasons, but you can do this (on a much less intense scale) for your wedding.
Often called an unplugged wedding, you can ask your guests to turn off or silence their cell phones and keep them tucked away to be completely present during your wedding. This can be just for the ceremony or for the entire reception, but it’s a nice way to keep everyone’s heads up instead of buried in their phones.
I don’t recommend confiscating their devices as Olsen and Sarkozy did. You never know who has kids or a sick family member who’d prefer to be reachable in an emergency. Plus, I think it’s excessive if you’re not an Olsen twin.
This suggestion to your guests also allows your amazing photographer and videographer that you hired to do their job without any iPhones or iPads popping into their viewfinders. Most will very, very much appreciate you for this = brownie points!!